My relationship with my parents has improved dramatically in the last year. Detaching from their default emotional state and viewing them as someone in need of love and care is one reason for that.

You don’t need to rant or lecture them. What they need is someone like a compassionate teacher who can talk to them, care for them, scold them, and guide them.

Following are five tips to reconnect with your parents and rebuild an amazing bond..

1. Schedule a time to talk with them
If you can’t see them, call them regularly. Give them an update on your progress. Be sure to ask for their advice if you need it. Get their advice on the things they excel at; they love to do it.

2. Inquire positively about their wellbeing.
If they are in good shape, inquire about their health. If they are unfit, ask them if their meals are good or if the weather is great. Give your unwell parent no chance to complain; they won’t recover if they do. Make them feel good to prevent them from feeling embarrassed about their health.

3. Design experiences
Provide them with unique experiences. Some they like, and some they’ve never heard of. Get them outdoors, take them to a movie, and order them some crazy junk food and desserts. Maybe you need to order an extra kilo of onions for your mom. Do everything you can to make them feel appreciated and amazed.

4. Be patient and show tough love
As our parents age, you have to display massive patience at times. Try to be understanding and go easy on them. Don’t ignore them, though. If necessary, show them some tough love. Taking action for their own sake requires stern and authoritative confidence. And you can provide that.

5. Differences should be respected
It’s okay to disagree. There are some things you can’t change. It may not be something you would want to do, but educate them about how you value their feedback or opinion. Tell them they are not your enemies if you disagree. There is no need for cold war tactics. Let them know the boundaries and play well within them. It won’t be hard for them.

The human mind reverses the process of aging and becomes a child again. We will all go through this.

All they need is a little care, love, and kindness.

Take this opportunity to connect deeply and meaningfully with your parents. You’ll need each other!