To try to please everyone all the time is to keep yourself in self-destructive mode.
Fitting in, blending in, and trying to please everyone around you can affect your emotional well-being over time.
From my experience, this habit of trying to please everyone stems from a desire to be loved. You care too much about the other person’s emotional and mental health while putting your own at risk.
Why do you do this?
You could have many reasons for doing so.
These include:
You don’t want the relationship to sour, you can’t disappoint the other person because he/she has done so much for you, you must follow commands; otherwise, your chances for success will be stunted, and so on. Let’s stop this behavior.
Here are three things I have seen work to combat this toxic behavior.
1. Embrace who you are
As you invest in self-love, you will realize you have many emotional issues from the past. Cleanse them.
2. Say No often
You should learn to say ‘no’ to things that don’t align with your values.
3. Don’t care what others think.
Your job is not to deal with other people’s emotions and verbal diarrhea. You mess things up when you take on their emotions. Keep your distance and do not get caught up in their drama.
You will feel a sense of freedom inside you once you put this into practice. If you’re less of a people pleaser, you’ll attract people who respect who you are.