As a mentor and guide, I am fortunate to be in a position to assist people in attaining their goals. Some need help with careers and content, while others want help with more personal matters, such as relationships and money.
One such case involved a talented creator and friend who struggled to earn money. Despite his talent, he wasn’t working hard.
Constantly doubtful and overwhelmed, he never committed to making progress. His half-hearted efforts resulted in him going backward.
He put himself through this pain. It broke my heart.
It was only after discussing this matter with my coach that I came to a new perspective on coaching. In an analogy, my coach described the solution as leaving the door open for them to come through.
The point is to show you that they are prepared to do the work by making an effort to meet you at a certain point.
If someone needs your help, let them know you are there to help them. Let them know how you can assist.
Let them know that you don’t intend to do them a favor. All you care about is their well-being.
The door is always open for them. However, if they need help, they must walk through the door.
Here, the idea is that the person who needs help has to be more proactive and must meet you at the center so you can help them. They must be willing to be coached.
With this simple idea, I changed my perspective on providing support to those who need it most. I tell them that my “door is always open” and guide them through their first steps.
I will do everything in my power to improve the lives of anyone who steps through the door and is willing to improve.
It brings me great joy to see someone’s life improve. I was born to serve; this is my calling—and my door is always open.