It has been 13 years since we got married. Trust, faith, and honesty have always been the foundation of our relationship.
My wife Ashwini and I decided on our first day of marriage that trust, faith, and honesty would be the three pillars of our relationship. Trust, however, is the core that binds faith and honesty together.
Although these three seem to be different, they are interconnected. To be trustworthy, you must be faithful and honest. It takes honesty and trust to be faithful. Honesty requires you to be trustworthy and let people have some faith in you.
There were good and bad times. We had to make some tough decisions for ourselves and for each other. Sometimes things were done secretly or sneakily. However, trust stood at the center of all of this.
In good times, everything seems fine. Things tend to get difficult during frictional patches in a relationship. Regardless of how hard it is, no matter how troubling it is, we have promised to behave and act in a way that will be trusted.
Every marriage must be built on the core pillars of both partners. These can be one or more words. Three pillars should form the foundation of your relationship.
They should be words you know will ground you. When you are on the wrong side of things, these pillar words can help you and your partner get back on track.
For a marriage to thrive, both partners must be involved and invested. When the road ahead is rocky and sloppy, your character, your love, and your core beliefs are put to the test. When that happens, you need something to hold onto.
Those three pillar words will determine and help you make decisions that will make or break your relationship. From my experience, these pillar words serve to strengthen the relationship. Go on, start building your pillar words.